(it happens here)
In writing, we are taught to use a parenthesis to signal "an amplifying or explanatory word or phrase".
In verbal communications, I think of parentheses conversations as ones that don't just amplify or explain the sender's meaning, but as rare instances of profound connection. It is as if talking within the parentheses allows us to step out of time, push the pause button and be with another person.
In these prized and reveletory moments, we share so much about ourselves:
how we feel about the situation without facade or pretense
additional background about our life experiences that exposes our position, reaction, confusion, fear or doubt
how this topic connects to another event, situation, belief, person and impacts our stance in a deep way
what we are struggling with, where we are vulnerable, where we are stuck
Inside the sacred space of the parentheses, you can step away from everthing that clamors for your time, energy, mindshare... and connect...and reflect...and learn.
When you have this connection with someone, it is special. And, both of you know it. It is a powerful gift. I have experienced these moments with trusted friends, family, colleagues, mentors, and clients. And, sometimes with new acquaintances.
What an extraordinary gift!
Priceless - literally and figuratively.
Questions to ponder:
- When do these conversational parentheses occur?
- Why are they so illuminating?
- What have you learned from them?
